Breaking a Mala
According to yogi tradition, when your mala breaks it symbolizes a broken cycle, indicating it’s time to bring new intentions into your life – a new mantra – as your needs were met through reflection and meditation.
Basically, when your mala breaks that means it’s time to level-up.
My mala did NOT break,.. but I definitely had a breakthrough of some sort on Daddy’s D-Day. So, I am retiring my beautiful white howlite, African green opal, and rose quartz mala beads and will only wear them when I want or need to remember my Dad’s last great lesson to me.
But I don’t want to stop meditating or growing or focusing. As I mentioned before, it seems to work…
So I reached out to the shop on Etsy where I purchased my first mala and asked about making a custom piece. I was looking for something specific and even though I didn’t have a new mantra, I knew the direction I wanted to go.
Kim at BeSoHum on Etsy worked with me to design a new mala with the following stones…
Called the Stone of Courage and the Stone of Truth, Amazonite empowers one to search the self and discover one’s own truths and integrity… It provides the freedom to express one’s thoughts and feelings, and to set strong and clear boundaries, both internally as self-discipline, and externally on what one is willing to experience…
Howlite decreases an overly critical state of mind, selfishness, stress, and anxiety, bringing calm and relaxation. Howlite also can decrease anger originating from within or externally. The wake of such calming can help one be truly comfortable as oneself without the need to pretend to be anything but what you are.
Snowflake obsidian has the property of bringing things to the surface. The things brought to the surface could be positive or negative but these things are brought to the surface gently. Snowflake obsidian can provide balance during times of change. It aids in seeing patterns in life and recreating them in a more beneficial way.
And my guru bead – Chrysocolla
Chrysocolla is a stone of wise women everywhere. Worn or carried, it helps older women to express their knowledge and experience through writing, painting, music, crafts or acting. The serenity of its turquoise-blue color discharges negative energies, calms, and allows truth and inner wisdom to surface and be heard.
With those stones to guide us, Kim helped me find a pattern and then she strung them together. I asked for a silk sari tassel this time and specifically chose a dark blue / purple that I thought might clash a bit with the light blue / green Amazonite (and I was right) but… I LOVE IT!! Meet my new mala!
Crafting a New Mantra
Mantras are supposed to be in sanskrit and the word “mantra” means, essentially, to “cross over the mind.” This aligns with what I’ve heard about reading aloud in general – that both saying and hearing a phrase will often help it transfer from left brain to right brain. Even now, reading aloud is one of my favorite focusing and studying techniques.
With that in mind, I don’t use a sanskrit mantra. I use an English mantra. Honestly, I just need a blunt instrument to beat positive thinking into my brain and English does the job.
So my old mantra was: I am at peace with what was, what is, and what will be. I forgive you, I forgive me.
Basically – Get over the past. Let go, accept, forgive.
I wanted my new mantra to be focused on the future – the future that now, for me, includes activism and organization and a great need for balance, calm, and faith in the decisions I am making in my life.
So I found some options and hacked up some phrases. Here’s what I had:
- “I am flexible and flowing, open to the new and changing, at peace, and I trust in the process of life.”
- “Every moment is a new opportunity to become who I am. I move, with life.”
- “I am a magnet for joy, love, and abundance.”
- “I am open to the abundance of the universe.”
- “I am tough, I am ambitious, and I know exactly what I want.”
But none of those were really resonating with me. I kinda wanted to stick to something that rhymed and those seemed very “me me me” focused.
And then… I took a closer look at a photo I recently made my iPad wallpaper. It’s a suffragette holding a sign, and I LOVE this sign (which is why it’s my wallpaper) and after researching the woman holding it, I realized I’d found my new mantra:
And thus, my new mantra was born; a phrase I can grow into and love and find meaning in, and in which meaning can find ME. 🙂
“Forward out of error, leave behind the night. Forward out of darkness, forward into the light.”
And now I just have to find the time to meditate! So… wish me luck!